sort of culture that makes the sort of thing you're talking about be treated so casually.

YES! Nail on head! That's just it - the issue is treated casually, as if women are making a lot of fuss about nothing, and we should accept it, or ignore it, or, as someone is arguing over hereeven accept part of the blame because some women behave badly in nightclubs o_O

Why SHOULD we accept it? Men wouldn't. 'Oh, he walked out on me because i was bing a bitch. he must be gay if he doesn't want to sleep with me'

Doesn't work, does it?