I do not get this kind of attention, I get very polite approaches from be-suited men. Normally very nice about polite decline-ation (what is the word I am looking for?)

I wonder if this is because I do not conform to the "accepted" female form?

This is a tough one, because the last thing I am trying to suggest is that you get the attention for conforming (in whatever way) - that is not what I mean, and does not make it any more acceptable. It is never acceptable in any shape or form.