I try to be as brutally honest behind peoples backs as I am to their faces, be it good or bad things I'm saying. As far as people talking about me goes It tends not to bother me cause after all if it was serious my friends would pull me up about it and if it was someone being mean then they'd be doing it because they lacked the courage to bring it to my face. Besides like Kipling says "If all men count with you, but none too much" I always think it's better to take heed of others opinions of your strengths or shortcomings but also to keep a handy pinch bucket of salt around to take it with.