i need to repeat myself, it seems.

[emmelinemay]

2 days ago, i wrote this.

Last night, on my way home on the night bus, a man kept rubbing his arm on mine, so i moved away. He put his hand on my back and says something like 'you ok?'. I say 'fine thanks' and move as far away as I can (not very far as the bus was crowded). He then grabs hold of my arm and says, 'oi. you ALRIGHT?'. 'Look,' i say, 'you don't go round touching women you don't know? ok? don't touch me. It's rude.'.

At which point, he says, 'why would i want to touch you, you fucking filthy lezza?'

Yes. Well done. Any woman that doesn't want your attention is clearly a lesbian. What other sort of woman would resist your manly might?

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[littleangel-103.livejournal.com]

I once read of a woman who, sick of such advances and before saying anything else, grabbed the offending hand, raised it over her head and said loudly "Anyone misplaced a hand? I've just found it, on my arse."

[emmelinemay.livejournal.com]

Something similar happened to me on the silverlink about 4 years ago. I used to get it to work, the journey was an hour, and i always used to use that hour to sleep, listening to my cd player. Only way to survive the silverlink!

Once, i woke up feeling something on my bum, at first, a bit groggy, i thought it was something in my back pocket, then i realised the guy next to me had got his hand under my arse and was having a damn got squeeze.

I leapt up, said to the whole tube at large,"this pervert was touching my up while i slept." and hit him very hard over the head with my cd player.

Then i just moved carriages, and everyone else just stared at him while he looked like he wanted to just disappear...

[emmelinemay.livejournal.com]

i swear to god I'm wearing a sign. I get it ALL THE TIME.

It is worse now i'm blonde than when I used to dress gothy, back then i'd fill the usual goth bingo card:

it's too early for halloween
it's moticia!
back from the dead are you?
what the fuck do you think you look like?
OI! OI! Freak!! hahaha! you're a FREAK! hahaha

and so on.

When i went blonde, and started dressing in more colourful mor normal stuff, it got more frequent, and less critical and more 'hey, a girl! she must want my attention!'.

It's at its worse when i have long loose extensions, blonde dreads, or when i have my bob blow-dried loose.

If I put my hair up in a pony tail or bunches? Doesn't happen. Well, not as often.

[emmelinemay.livejournal.com]

i don't think it's necessarily related to being attractive - more female!!

[emmelinemay.livejournal.com]

then i am either wearing a sign, or have some sort of weirdo-magnet implant.

or it's the blonde hair. Perhaps the blonde=bimbo image in the media is more deep rooted than we realise?

[blonde-venus.livejournal.com]

I get LOADS of this kind of stuff. Definitely something to do with being blonde.
Not nearly as bad now I've got dreads in permanently though. I tend to get more nutters / abuse than chat-ups or perving.

[kissmeforlonger.livejournal.com]

An excellent way of dealing with it, shame you've had to have so much practice.

[emmelinemay.livejournal.com]

I clearly have a wanker magnet installed somewhere. I attract total dickheads.

I would like to exchange it for a hot-single-6'ish tall-indie-boy magnet, please.

[lightinthedark.livejournal.com]

Hi,
6'6", single, and have been called hot in the past (though admittedly by previous girlfriends who were probably biased / mad), not a creep I promise :-)

I wonder if you can get some sort of mini rubber-stamp that just says "Pervert" on it that you could whip out and stamp on the forehead of guys that grab your arse etc. That'd be fun, embarrasing, and would warn any other girl that the guy approaches (at least until he gets to a tap to wash his forehead).

Hello
:-Lightinthedark

[emmelinemay.livejournal.com]

you're also a christian, and i'm an atheist.

actually, i identify more as a pastafarian than an atheist...

[lightinthedark.livejournal.com]

'Tis a noble faith, but not one I share.
Still, it was worth a shot since you seemed to be looking for a non-tosser. ... though I'll admit this thread may not have been the best place to put myself forward :-/ Hey ho.

Hello
:-Lightinthedark